Relationships
In-person in St Louis Park; virtually across Minnesota
“We use boundaries to KEEP relationships, not to cut them off."
- Abigail Fobanjong, LPCC, NCC
It’s not just you (but let’s talk about you)
Maybe it’s with your partner, your coworkers, your family, or your friends—lately, your relationships just feel off.
You keep ending up in dynamics that are draining, one-sided, or full of miscommunication. You react in ways you don’t love—people-pleasing, shutting down, spiraling with anxiety, or going numb—and then wonder if you’re the problem.
You’re not sure if it’s them, you, some old pattern running the show… or ALL of the above.
Take control over your part in this
Our lives revolve around our connections, and sometimes it’s hard to tell if they’re helping or hurting us.
When you do the deep work—looking at your past, your attachment style, and what you truly want—healthy, steady, life-giving relationships become possible.
You start spotting old patterns and ask: Are these people bringing out my best self?
You’re clear on what’s yours to carry—and what’s not. You’re setting clear boundaries, speaking your truth, and finally letting go of what was never yours to hold.
Why me?
I get how early relationships shape the ones we’re in now, because I’ve lived it too. Change doesn’t always come easily, and it usually doesn’t come until something hurts enough to make us stop and pay attention.
I’m patient with the process and offer a steady, safe place to untangle the mess at your pace.
Together, we’ll get curious about the patterns, the pain, and the possibilities moving forward—because your relationships matter.
Who this type of therapy is for:
→ Adults stuck in repetitive relationship cycles—dating the same kind of people, constantly clashing with your boss or shutting down in conflicts, or repeating the same painful patterns.
→ Those who don’t like who they become in relationships—anxious, avoidant, overinvested, or shutting down too fast.
→ Anyone questioning whether it’s time to hold on, work through it—or finally let go.
→ People navigating relationships marked by addiction, abuse, control, or toxic dynamics.
→ Those feeling drained, stuck, or unsatisfied in their relationships—whether it’s with a partner, family member, friends, or coworkers.